I like the idea of honoring your existing relationships, fostering them. Loving them. Cause most likely they’ll still be there when you’re in need. And move slowly towards letting the heart open to something new. Let it be earned. Don’t put limits on the time. Keep YOU. Because you’re the only you and you’ll still be doing YOU with or without that relationship. Our strength is like a muscle that constantly needs attention. So honor that muscle and keep all of you.
When you have time alone with no one else, except your soul, you can hear the noise + the silence. You can go through your checklists of who comes first. Who has the highest needs. Or what your greatest desires are. To have that choice, is powerful. Cause in this crazy, fun, outrageous, push-button world we live in, we are constantly being pulled in different directions. We have priorities to keep and trust to establish. Expectations and anticipation. Back and forth. To those who aren’t committed in a relationship, you are gifted freedom that you generally wouldn’t experience otherwise. To do as you please with no need to ask for the hall pass. So how do you decide who you let in and who earns your trust? Giving away your time to anyone or those who haven’t proven their loyalty can be a challenging task. And after my ebb and flows of relationships, I know the right order. Who comes first, second and so forth. You can beg for the attention or you can keep yourself the way your were. Independent. Strong. All knowing.